Rebuttal : Ebone - Role Models

Ebone's blog post was one of many but her's was the first one I found that was against mine so here's my response. She says,

If you make the decision to be an entertainer on a children's show, you cannot be caught in the news smoking a bong and getting high like this very famous young child actress, with millions of fans did recently. The things that children/teenagers see on TV influences and affects their behavior in real life. For instance, if a child admires someone like Batman and he/she sees Batman doing bad things, they are going to think it's okay because their role model is doing it and do it themselves. 

I have to be honest, Ebone is saying the truth but there were a few things I wish to address. Just because you decide to get in the industry, should it mean that you should do everything perfectly? Does it mean that you shouldn't grow up and do new things because you started off entertaining young ones? Does it mean they cannot do the types of things a normal teen would?

People such as Miley Cyrus come into the industry because it is what they have dreamed to do. They work extremely hard and compete like never before. After all that work, they most certainly do not want to dedicate their careers to satisfying little children. For example, say you study for the longest time and you focus like there is no tomorrow because you really want to impress your parents. You take the test, and you pass. However, your teacher tells you, "Oh, I decided this test shouldn't count because I didn't like it." Wouldn't that be irritating? That is how Miley Cyrus might feel. She works extremely hard for making her dreams come true and at the end, she doesn't even get the audience she wanted. Her audience was limited to the younger generation.

I understand that she started off on a children's show but she wants to grow out of it but no one will let her. We are holding her back. But, if everyone insists that she should be held back and she must work for entertain the younger people, then we should leave her personal life out of the picture. When she smoked the bong, it was on her own time. What she does away from her "Hannah Montana" life is none of our concern. So I say let's just leave these celebrities alone and let them do them.

( Love You Ebone Girl ! )

I Love My Friends !

(There are more people but this is focused on my lunch group only because they were the ones who stuck with me until now)

Man, sometimes I feel like I don't say this to my friends enough. I really do love them and without them, I swear I would be lost. Here at ASTI, I have found a group of really good people who are proving to me day-by-day that they are there for me no matter what. You guys are all my loves and the reason why I look forward to going to school. Keep up the good work, just do you all the time, and know I am here for you guys and I don't care what you need. I will come through. You guys mean the world and more to me. You guys have made me realize how much I really love you guys.

These past 6 or 7 months of school, you guys proved that you guys are the group of people I want to be friends with forever. Today, Januray 21, 2011 we had lunch together just like the old days and I looked around at all of you guys. All of you were so unique, special, and different. I just thought, wow! This is my group of people, these are the ones that are still here with me. Still putting up with my attitude, rudeness, and everything else. It made me so juiced to see all of us together again, as a group.

Karen! This girl is my twin, other half, sister, and my ride or die. Karen and I immediately had a connection. Everytime I am in a bad situation, she's there to tell me how to get through it. She knows when i'm mad or sad and i'm glad that she is my friend. Then, Shannon. Oh God! She has always been there. She is one of the people I would truly hate to lose. She is like my sister and i'm glad I met her. Karisa! She is so innocent and I absolutely love her! Once I have a problem, I can tell her and she tells me what to do and it turns out being the best advice ever. Now, my girl Ebone. I love her to death. I have known her forever and I will never forget all the good things she's done for me. She always tells me the correct thing to do and I feel like she is someone I will want to be friends/sister's with forever. Melissa Ma. This girl and I have been through the worst ever. However, we always work right around it and end up being friends again. This little girl is like my sister as well. She is just the best person in the world and I will be there for her and do whatever I can to make sure we stay friends. Justice, Justice, Justice! She is really important to me. She's my backbone, sister, ride or die, right arm, left leg, and everything else. I love this girl with all my heart and I will support her and do anything for her. She has always been there for me and she is the definition of a true friend. She is one hundred percent real and I respect her.

Stan is the best friend ever! He is always asking me if i'm okay when i'm sad and I love him. He's like my brother and in these past 6 months, Stan and I have become really good friends and i'm thankful for him. Cameron. He's the best person I have ever met. I love Cameron because I think of him as my older brother. He always tells me things straight up, I respect him and he knows it. Troy is another one of my good friends. Again, he's on that brother level. He plays around a lot but when it comes down to it, he knows how to make me feel a better. I love him and I definetly want him in my life. Tony Lin, he is for sure one of my brothers. He calls me Rockstar and we go way back! We couldn't stand each other but we turned that around and now, we get along really well. I love him and he's always there for me.

These people are just the most important. I love them to death and if I lose any of them, I don't even know what I would do. I respect them, love them with all my heart, support them, appreciate them, and will give up anything in the world for them. They have been there to tell me when i'm acting stupid and they have been there to tell me that they are proud. I could have never asked God for friends better than them. I honest to God love you guys and I want you guys to know that.

Young Actors = Role Models ?

There is Selena Gomez, Miley Cyrus, Demi Lovato, And Justin Bieber. These are basically the four most important and young actor/actresses in the industry. They make the most money, have the most popularity, and are well-known through out the world. However, should they devote most of their teenage years to satisfying the younger ones? Should they have to do everything correct just because they have little kids watching their shows and listening to their music? I think not! We need to understand that they will mess up, and if not mess up, they will just want to move on so we can't expect for them to stay the way they are forever.

Why in the world would all of these successful people waste their time trying to satisfy kids who won't let their "role models" move on and do more things with their career? If they mean so much to all these people, why would they not let them move on and become more famous? Now an example is 16 year old Taylor Momsen from Gossip Girl was caught smoking and everyone immediately attacked her and her response was,

"To be honest, I don't f--king care. I didn't get into this to be a role model. So I'm sorry if I'm influencing your kids in a way that you don't like, but I can't be responsible for their actions. I don't care."

I have to say I agree with her. I don't want to be all about smokig because if you know me, then you know the words "above the influence" are tattoed to my forehead. However she made a valid point because no one gets into the industry to be stuck doing things to satisfy others. They got into the industry to live the dream and to be their own person, not who all the fans want them to be.

Another example is Selena Gomez who is the most gorgeous, talented, pretty, successful, loved, famous, and funnest celebrity and no one will let her move on. They all want her to stay with Disney Channel and sing childish songs because they don't want her to go down the wrong direction. Since I am her biggest fan, her twin, and the only person who would actually give up their life just to see her, I think I can say that it is time for her to move on and do bigger and better things.

Miley Cyrus... she was the biggest teen sensation from day one and you know what? She fell just as fast and just as hard because she decided she wanted to grow up. I call that retarded. If she wants to go sing in shorts and a tank top, then she can. If she wants to go smoke a bong, then she can. She has a father and a mother so it is none of our concern. Our job is to support her and be there for her so when paparzzi tries to break her, we are there to build her back up and make sure she doesn't completely dissapear from the industry. This is what was said about her new music video "Who Owns My Heart":

The head of the PTC, Tim Winter, has slammed Cyrus stating:
“It is unfortunate that she would participate in such a sexualized video like this one. It sends messages to her fan base that are diametrically opposed to everything she has done up to this point,” agrees Winter. “Miley built her fame and fortune entirely on the backs of young girls, and it saddens us that she seems so eager to distance herself from that fan base so rapidly.”

I would like to ask this Tim Winter a question. Is it any of your business? You have no right to say something like that about a young girl who has a father and a mother who thank God are still alive and are watching her. You are a 50 year old man and you need to stay out of her business. Oh, and she did start off on the backs of younger girls because stating the obvious she was young herself. Can it get anymore obvious? Now that she is older, she wants to sing and make videos for people her age. It isn't her fault parents make their children watch her show and videos when they are obviously now meant for the older generation and not a bunch of 5 and 6 year olds. It is irritating and rude when people think they can say rude things about others just because they are older. Your input is not needed and it is not any of your concern. Is she your daughter? Neice? Nephew? I think not so you need not to comment on what she does. You just need to help her stay on the correct path since it seems like you won't survive unless Miley acts like a 10 year old. So why put her down when you can "help her"?

Then, Demi Lovato. This girl is a good singer and what not but guess what? She lost millions of fans just because she stepped into rehab. That is straight up crazy. Why does that concern us or any of her fans? For all we should care, she can go to the club 24/7 and get drunk. She has parents and if they are okay with what she does, then who are we (her fans) to tell her what she can and can't do? She can't devote her entire life to satisfying us. She needs to grow up and find out who she is and what she wants to do with her life. Everyone wants Lovato to make it her life goal to satisfy us. It's like no sweets, it doesn't work that way.

Justin Bieber. This little boy is the biggest male teen sensation. Everyone loves him but just as many hate him. Why? Because and I quote, "He's tryina be all ghetto and black," and "He sounds like a girl!" Most also say that he is a bad influence and apparently he said he wants to be a father at a young age which troubled many. People speak on his name like it's bubble gum. Parents don't like him because he sings songs with girls and he has pictures kissing girls. Big deal! Is he supposed to devote his career to singing to little girls and making them feel like they are his "baby" or they will be the "one less lonely girl" because he will pick them?

There is a limit to everything and we need to understand that their is a point in time where these sensations will want to move on and sing or act for the older generation. So we should not expect for them to always be the angels that they start off being because in this industry, they are bound to mess up so hey, let's just support them.

Smh Moment ....

Here is my attempt to be mature so please hear me out. I know I have been straight up with everyone when it came to my point of view and what I thought about a situation. I know most people think that I feel really strong when I sit behind a computer just because I know there will be no harm done to me. I also know that most people think I am super rude and that I need an attitude check because I am a taking these posts way to serious. Stating the obvious, I am here to explain myself and apologize.

When I see a post that seems interesting and I know I have a lot to say, I respond to it and don't hold back. I say what I have to say whether it be negative or posotive just because I feel like these posts should be based off of honesty, not based off of what might make people feel happy. I have no problem saying these things to people's faces because it isn't that serious to me. It's just my point of view and I feel like I should be able to say how I feel without having to worry about people taking it seriously.

I have been in the posotion where everyone attacks you for a post and I know it really pissed me off but then again, I knew it was just what they thought and so I wasn't trippin about it. However, I understand that some people might not think that way and I respect that. Although it makes me feel like I can't even speak my mind but it's not like I didn't realized that I need to tone it down and consider others before I start typing like a wild animal.

I would like to take this time to apologize for any feelings I hurt or for anything I said that might have made someone feel like I was purposely attacking them because that was not my intention. I was just trying to get my point across and it's my bad if I offended anyone. I know I do too much sometimes and it's because I am the type of person that has to say what I think or it feels like the end of the world. I like to get my opinion out there and I love debating so therefore I thought I could do that through blog posting. But I never intended on hurting feelings or making someone feel bad.

If you are in Mr. Sutherland's class with me then you already know how I love to talk in front of everyone and debating is my specialty. I can debate for hours and always have something to say. I don't do it because I know i'm good at it and I have an advantage. I do it because I like to hear other people's opinions and I like to see things from different perspectives. But overall, I really apologize for being rude, mean, or hurting feelings. I realized all this today when a sophmore gave me the best advice in the world and I wish to thank Gina for making me realize all these things.

(I promise I won't be rude anymore, I'll be nicer and if I feel like i'm about to say something rude, I'll walk away from the computer and avoid.)

"Ahahahaha" Response To Lhadze

I hope I don't explode while writing about this but here I go. Lhadze says:

Ok I'm going to respond to you all. I can't find every ones post but I'll post this on Rokhors blog  have  I know your cousins supposely scene, and I'm glad we have more of them, but it's when they show you looking more emo than scene and they think their so scene. It's funny to me as a Scene Kid and i find it absolutly hilarious when  you're not even scene and you call yourself scene( like the wanabes)

First of all, my cousin is not "supposedly" scene. She is scene and she will skate "scene" rings around all of the other scene queens, kings, kids, babies and whatever else. So thank you for attemtping to make me seem like a liar and im sorry, it didn't work. You best believe I don't care who you grew up around, I know my cousin is scene and if she wanted to, she could be a scene queen right now because she is that beautiful and that worthy.

Second of all, she is not the general base. She is the defenition itself. She made the word scene and if anyone were to see my cousin, they would throw away all other scene people and think she is the only one. Oh yeah, and again, okay you grew up around scene people. What are we supposed to do? Do you want all beginners to come kiss your feet? Like you told me and I quote, "She called me a scene wanna be and I was like hey! I was just a beginner!" So now all these people that are starting off might now have achieved the look yet so they are not wanna be's.

What pissed me off is how my cousin was brought up! That makes me want to pull all of my hair out. My gorgeous cousin has nothing to do with this. She does not wear a lot of make up, she does not have a lot of piercings, she does not like hello kitty, she does not do anything other "scene" people do! She does have the big, ginormous teased hair that is pink, black, dark blue, and blonde right now. She has only one lip piercing, one nose piercing, and one ear piercing on each ear. All the scene guys die for her but she doesn't like them. So yes, she is scene and anyone can be scene and I will believe that until I die.

(Sorry if I was rude, i'm in a bad mood)

You Hella Dirty ....

Some people are so grimy, I swear to God. As you all know, I just got my fresh haircut and you know I am trying to enjoy it when I see the nastiest person on earth. Well she did not look dirty because you know. She looked like a freshman or sophomore, her hair was gelled, fresh pair of Jordan’s, and a matching top. So my friend and I go over there and were standing by the stoplight when this little nasty, not so clean piece of garbage flips her hair. All I see is about 3-miniature bug’s fall to the floor. Even worse, her hair was parted and on her scalp, I see a bunch of little black things that my friends and I identified as eggs. In addition, there were little bugs flying from one portion of her hair to the other and a bunch of other nasty things crawling.

I almost punched her in the face because I have my super clean, just washed, and just straightened hair down and the lice can just hop right into my hair and I can have her dirtiness. I was like, “Um no boo! If you got lice, then put your oh so dirty hair up because no one wants that filthiness.” I mean come no now. Why are you being so dirty? Put your hair up so that no one else gets them nasty bugs in their hair.

The nastiest thing is how they act as if they do not know. It is so obvious you have lice when you got your dirty hand in your hair all the time scratching and stuff. I mean if you have that long rapunzel hair, then I will understand because it is hard to handle and sometimes it gets itchy, but if you have short hair like that dirty female… then it is a no-no. I swear, if I ever (God forbid) get lice, I will have my hair up 24/7 and not come to school. Well at least my mom says she would not let me come to school. But anyways, I hope that little nasty gets her head shaved because she was the grimiest girl I have ever seen.

Response To Aleah

Okay, so obviously I was looking through the posts and I saw one that really pissed me off and being the type of person I am, I will respond to it and explain a few things. Aleah said:

"This week for the first time in a while I'm responding to Rhocksor because I think Teenage girls need to GET OVER IT! .... I honestly doubt that a little kid can be in love. In my opinion love works two ways. So if you feel the love so do they. Females attach themselves to every guy that they go out with. But they need to realize that "you can not attach yourselves to every guy that says he looves you becuase at the end of the day you'll probably have at least fifteen attach ments...So another thing that annoys me that I didn't put on my last blog is the fact that teenage females attach themselves or claim a Boyfriend. Like what the Hell? Who the hell are you to claim a boy that you ain't married to. These dudes have no obligation to you. So they can do what they want, your not there wife, mother, or grandmother."

Okay, can someone please tell me where in my post I said, "Oh, my friend was attached!" Um, lets see, NO WHERE! I did not say that and I refuse to let Aleah claim that I did. Why are you making me and me friend seem like were a bunch of boy crazy stupid people who don't know what we are talking about? If I say that my friend was in love and she says she was in love, then she was and that is that. Point Blank Period. I respect your ideas but you just made me seem really bad and it is because you are putting down everything I say.

As if you didn't know, she is a teenage girl. She has feelings and she is extremely strong but he meant a lot to her so she cried. That's what I was getting at, I wasn't saying she's strong but cries over everything. Also, he did love her and I can bring about 10 people in advance to prove it but the fact was, she messed up in the beginning and messed with his feelings which officially ruined it for her. That is why she cried for the longest time ever.

Oh, just so I don't forget, are you trying to tell me that teenagers need to get over it? So if someone treats you like their queen and they treat you like their everything, your going to spit at them and just laugh because you "honestly doubt that a little kid can be in love"? You can be in love regardless of your age. It's kind of like saying, "Oh, your 78, you are way too old to be in love" and "oh, you're 15, what the hell do you know about love"? I have come to realize you can love at any age and when someone tells you you're "too young", you need to laugh at them and know that obviously they haven't experience the feeling you get when you know that someone is giving you their all.

Oh God, this part really pissed me off and I literally wanted to pull my hair out. She said we were "claiming" boys and she asked the extremely disrespectful question "Who the hell are you to claim a boy that you ain't married to. These dudes have no obligation to you. So they can do what they want, your not there wife, mother, or grandmother." Excuse me? That is extremely disrespectful and I can't even believe you would say something like that. Did I say in my post that she had him on lock down and she didn't let him go? NO I did not so I would appreciate if you stopped adding extra details that are LIES to MY post. Oh, and nobody tried to tell anyone what to do so therefore we understand that we aren't their grandma, or mother, or whatever else you listed.

Mr. Sutherland I am sorry if this was way too long, this was just very important to me and I needed to clear up everything because my friend means the world to me and without her, I would be dead or something so please excuse my attitude and anything else that I said which might have come out wrong. I respect Aleah but this post was about my other half and for her, I would give up the world so .... sorry.

Based On My Friends Love Life

My friend Roxy (that's what we called her, her real name is Sasha) was single, loud, crazy, pretty, sweet, and just everything you might love but it was not like she didn't have imperfections. She did the kinds of things you would never imagine and that is what made her so different. She dressed really nice and her hair was gorgeous looking even if it was thown up in a bun. She was always a little bugged about the fact that she was single but she did not let it get to her.

Until one day she met someone. He respected her, said he loved her, said she was pretty, said she meant the world to him, and all that good stuff. Sure a lot of people had said that to her before but she didn't take any of them as serious as she took this one.

"He's just different Rokhsor. He makes me feel like a queen." she would say to me.

Of course, being the type of person I am, I didn't buy it. I felt like this talk was just temporary. She had just met him about a day ago and he already said those things? It was weird for me but I didn't want to make it rain on her parade so I told her I was happy for her. Stating the obvious, they started going out. They started off stronger than any other couple I had ever seen. Of course they fell just as bad. She broke up with him once but only because she loved him and knew she had no option. They got back together and that was when it became horrible.

They were over within a few days. They were stronger than ever and then, they broke up. It literally killed her inside. She hid her feelings and walked around like she didn't give a care in the world. A lot of guys still tried getting at her but she turned them down. She loved this guy because he was her first and to let him go just a few days after they got back together really bugged her.

She was the toughest girl you would ever meet but she cried for hours on the phone when we were talking. I remeber exactly what she said:

"Rokhsor, I loved him and I literally mean love. Like I said, he made me feel like I was royalty and for him to just let me go like that bugs me. Why would he do that? Is he trying to get me back or some sh*t? I really hope that's not the case. Oh, and you will never believe what I heard! He is dating some other girl now. My brother told me he could have made up an excuse to break up with me because he wanted her. Why the hell would he do that? I mean, I know why he broke up with me and it sounds rather legit but the fact that he shoved his fat foot so deep down in the ground and wouldn't work around the reason bothers me. What should I do? Please help me, help him, help us get back together! I am willing to do anything."

Those were her exact words. I say this story today just to let you all know how messed up the boys are. They really know how to play with a girl's emotions. This is basically my warning, once you dump them, they will like you a whole lot less even if it doesn't seem like it so therefore, with boys you need to expect the worst at all times. And yes, I saw right through him and I knew he was speaking lies.

(She allowed me to post this story so don't think I did this behind her back)

College ....

We have been looking at quite a few debates recently and it is about colleges. There were some that were okay, one that was fabulous, and one that just pissed me off because it didn't convince me of anything. In fact to be 100 percent honest, I didn't understand a single word. The one that convinced me was Graduate School Matters More by David W. Breneman. He says:

"College choice is a complicated matter, not unlike a marriage. Too may variables are involved to base the decision solely on the factors that a news magazine has selected to rank colleges. No one would pick a spouse in such a manner."

Basically, when I read this part it made me think "Genius"! He is speaking the truth and this is why. Breneman says that choosing a college is a very hard decision and that it needs to be based off what you think is going to help you in the long run. You cannot base it off of which college happens to be ranked the highest. I say this because based off of what people tell me, a majority of the people I know wish to attend a school that was voted best and not a school that will benefit them the most. I found this the most convincing because students do not pick colleges based off of what they want to be but again, rather based off of what the magazines think is the best which is STUPID.

Now the weakst one there was What You Do Vs. Where You Go by Martha O'Connel. Here is the part that just made me think, "What the hell is she talking about?"

"During the fall months at high school guidance counseling programs, juniors run to the stage to participate in an exercise to try and help them understand that it is not “where you go” that matters. They hold posters featuring the names and faces of famous people while their peers and parents shout out with confidence the names of elite colleges they assume the celebrities attended."

I read this and just sat there and thought to myself, what do posters and celebrities have to do with anything? Why is that relevant to anything? We are talking about colleges and she is over here discussing how everyone wants me to go to colleges that celebs went to and something about people putting pictures of celebs on posters. Well I am glad you can recognize a celeb, props to you but what is your point? No one that I know goes to schools that celebs went to. You know why? Because stating the obvious, none of those celebs go there anymore so again, what is the point? I found this to be the weakest and did not believe a single word she said.

Emo & Scene Response

There has been a war about this emo/scene thing ever since I came to Asti and now thanks to Lhadze, I had the chance to talk about it. She said:

"I've grown around scene kids all my life. I guess I have more of a right to say I'm scene. Cause all you people who say "I'm Scene" your all posers.... So next time you think your scene and you try to ruin your hair and look kinda weird take it from someone who knows, if you know your not comfortable wearing a style you think is cute, but highly competitive, rethink it."

Okay, so she basically is calling people who want to be scene "posers" and she is saying that they are making themselves look a hot mess. Wow, that's sort of harsh and I wish to say a few things about this. In the beginning, everyone looks a little out of the ordinary. It takes time to master "the" look. You said in your post that scene was about having your own style and not being ashamed. Well what if their interpretation of scene is different from yours and different from what you grew up around?

I have a scene cousin who could pass as scene Godess and she looks nothing like you. She listens to underground rap and she doesn't do half of the things on your list but yet she is verified as the scenest person in the area. She hates ripped up clothes and she can't stand cocky people. She doesn't dye her hair a lot, she doesn't wear metal brand shirts, and she hates scene boys. Does that mean she is a poser? Does that mean that since you wouldn't call her scene, she is not scene at all? That is what gets me questioning these "scene" people. Because like I said, my cousin is drop dead gorgeous and looks so scene that I thought she invented the whole idea on her own.

If you take scene so seriously, then why won't you let it spread so that everyone can get to know these types of people and know that it is a beautiful thing to be? Why are you not allowing for other people to try and achieve this look because I say that if it is what they want to look like, then they should go for it. However, I know how you feel because I understand how part of this is about biters and you best believe I would slap a biter because they piss me off. So why can't people just be scene but attempt to be original while achieving this look?